Posted: 12:36 p.m. Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Don't get me wrong — I'm all about setting goals. But when goals are fuzzy or unfocused, they can start to hold you back.
I have three kids in college about to graduate, and goals are at the forefront of my mind. One of my goals is making sure goals are at the forefront of their minds.
This goal has been on my mind for many years now; it's something I think about on a daily basis. I know my goal and I am focused on making it happen. As a parent, I find myself watching and measuring their progress. Sometimes when they stray off the path I give them a little push in the right direction.
Your goals have to be defined and worked on every day. Many times people who may think they have the same goal end up achieving drastically different results based on their level of focus and commitment. For example, take the goal of getting a college degree.
Going off to college is almost a rite of passage in our culture — it's what you say you’re going to do after you finish high school. But not every college undergrad is in the same boat. Some students are laser-focused and finish in four years, but there are some that drift and finish in six, or not at all. I have proof of that under my roof today.
What causes one student to achieve his goals and the other to fall off along the way? With all things being equal, it has to be that one student is more focused on the goal than the other. There is a higher level of intensity and drive that makes someone want to cross the finish line first. If you have that focus in you, you will achieve your goals. If focused goals can bring you where you want to be, foggy goals can hold you back.
Everyone has goals — some small, some large. To achieve them it takes time, focus and a lot of work. I tell my kids that now is the time to see who you are in life. It's time to stretch yourself and break out. Setting goals can bring you places you never thought you could go, physically and mentally … as long as you are clear on what you want to accomplish and how to do it.